Are you doing a great job of taking care of everyone in your life except yourself?
That's how I was living my life for quite a while. I was supermom, wife, daughter, teacher, friend, and more. Then there came a day when I found I couldn't breathe. It happened again and then again, day after day, and I was frightened. I came to understand I was experiencing panic attacks, which landed me squarely in a therapist's office for the first time in my life. He helped me understand that I was caught in a loop many women find themselves in. We take on too much. We don't say no. We need to be extremely good at all of it -- giving giving giving. We think that to take time for our self is to be "selfish." But I learned (unwillingly at first) that this was a misconception and that taking time for myself every day was a way of being good to everyone in my life. If I wasn't physically and emotionally healthy first, I couldn't be present for everyone else later.
I started with little things. My therapist and I made a list of things I could do for myself that would make me feel happy and cared for. That list included 10 minutes of quiet meditation, a weekly manicure, 30 minutes at the gym or a 30 minute walk in my neighborhood with headphones and some great music. Everyone in my family understood this time was sacred. MY time. It could not be pushed back if someone else's needs popped up. I carved out that time every day no matter what, because I understood how important it was for everyone.
I argued so strongly about it at first and assured the therapist there was NO time for me to do this. But oddly there was -- once I made it a priority. And no matter how busy my day gets, I still keep that daily "me time" as an essential part of my day today. So, what do you do to pamper yourself?