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Monday, July 12, 2010

Mother of the Bride

I had intended to post questions for each chapter of American Wife, but things changed and that didn't happen.  As it turned out I did start a Women and Books discussion group on Goodreads to select a work of fiction to read and discuss each month, and if you are interested in joining you can click here:   Women and Books .  



In ten days (July 23) my baby girl will be getting married. This is obviously a big deal for our family, as it is for every family.  After all the years and all the many times she and I have watched Steve Martin's incredulous blustering and posturing in Father of the Bride ("don't forget to fasten your condom,") I can't believe her turn is coming up.  She'll obviously (I use that word because it's so clear to us, not that it would be clear to you) be using several songs from that movie since it's nearly the soundtrack of our lives.  I feel as if we should rent swans for the ceremony and find Fraaaahhhnk to do the rest.  God we loved watching that movie and dreaming about her big day -- and now it's nearly here.

Will we be able to give her up?  She has been, after all, our ray of sunshine for 24 years and now, here she is, taking dancing lessons as I write this,  getting ready for her wedding day.  I suppose these things have to happen; I know they do.  But now I understand how my parents felt so many years ago when my feet were still in my house but my mind was already out the door, longing for the little girl who has already gone.







16 comments:

Jackie said...

My daughter and very first to leave the nest is getting married this Saturday(July 17th) . I have had mixed feelings , she is marrying a wonderful man but it is oh so hard. I hope your baby has a wonderful wedding day and a blissful future.

Brenda said...

So true, with each little break away, your heart breaks a little, but you know she will always be your little girl that bond is never broken.

My baby girl (born on July 23) will be leaving for college in August. I am already starting to cry. I can't even think about it even though I have been through it twice already. Each one that goes take a little piece of you with them.

It is fantastic to see the milestones. Can't wait to see the pictures. Congratulations to you, Teri and your family.

Janet Ghio said...

What a sweet and poignant post about your daughter and her upcoming wedding day. Much luck to her.

Bea said...

Awww, enjoy the event and her happiness. :)Bea

Mary Helen-Art Saves Lives said...

Yes your life is changing but remember it will develop a bloom of circling love for your heart. Later the grand children will fill you with such amazing love...trust in the Universe...Love is eternal. Be happy Mom...you have done a great job! Imagine and Live in Peace, Mary Helen Fernandez Stewart

paperqueen said...

Touching post. It will be a wonderful day and you will be a gorgeous MOB. And you don't need Fraaaaank, LOL!
Congratulations, my friend.
Eileen

Holli said...

What a sweet post. It brought tears to my eyes.... this was lovely.

(we watched Father of the Bride too... know what ya mean!)

Monkey Mind said...

I don't even have kids and this post made me tearful. I guess because I understand what it means to be a daughter, if not a mom.

Thauna said...

Your words brought thoughts, hopes, and wishes for my daughters. I wish you and your daughter much, much happiness and love. You will always be close even once she becomes a wife, because you are blessed with a special relationship. Such a happy time for you both. xo

Tammy Freiborg said...

She is beautiful and may her wedding day be all the two of you have dreamed. She will always be your daughter and you will always be her mom!

freebird said...

My daughter was 18 when she got married the first time and 21 for the second time (which has lasted, darn it - I think he's abusive). I was 18 so although it doesn't feel like it to you, you are lucky. Besides, in some ways you'll become better friends now. Two women on a more equal footing (never equal I think, first you are the major player and then as we get older they become the major player) All you can do is enjoy every moment the best you can. Really, there are more wonderful events and times in your future with your daughter.

Brandie said...

This is so sweet, Teri. I can't imagine how hard it is to let go. Someday that will be me and I know it's gonna be hard! She's very lucky to have you for a mom!

I wish her all the BEST and hope the wedding day is just perfect and wonderful and everything you and her ever dreamed!

Maer aka Marilyn Harris-Mills said...

what a sweet post. Hard to let them leave the nest. But you will enjoy her day as all MOB's do. All the best.

LisaC said...

Congratulations Mother of the Bride! Your daughter is going to make a beautiful bride. I can't even imagine what you're going through though, my only child is 9 and I have a hard time letting her turn 10, LOL. I try not to think about high school or college ;-)

Elizabeth Golden said...

It is so hard to see your child grow up. Not having any daughters I am not sure how you feel. I do know watching two of my boys marry was so bittersweet. They were so happy. Welcoming their wives into our family was wonderful. Enjoy these moments. These are the joyful gifts we are given. I am sure it is going to be a wonderful day and the start of something even greater.

Useful Books said...

Good luck, Teri! I married off my first son last year. It's hard to let go but also very good, for all parties.

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